Uncomfortable Clarity

Clarity can be a good thing. To help us see and get insight on things. When we are confused, we ask for more clarity. But what happens when the clarity we receive is uncomfortable or not what we expected? Sometimes the clarity will be hard truths that we couldn’t see in the past or were not ready or able to deal with. Clarity may force us to make bigger changes in our lives, alter old beliefs and even change relationships. The uncomfortable clarity may be exactly what is needed to move forward or make decisions and changes in your life. But it can often be difficult when clarity alters our reality and forces changes that may be long overdue. So, what is the best way to deal with uncomfortable clarity? And what can you do when you are faced with it?

Have you ever had those situations in your life that have gone on and on for months or years. Something that you keep trying to figure out. But it always seems like there is some information that is missing. You may keep dealing with a situation even if it is uncomfortable or difficult because you don’t have the clarity that is needed to make a change or decision. Sometimes your emotions heavily influence what new information you can take in. If you have a strong belief or view, you may not easily take in information that can alter that reality. But what is needed is clarity of what may really be happening.

Think of a person in a relationship. There are rumors their partner has been cheating on them. They may even have friends sharing information about the betrayal. But if this was true it could alter the person’s reality. It may force them to deal with it and make changes in their life. Would they get divorced? Would they lose their lifestyle or financial security? Would it be embarrassing to share what happened? Or would they feel that people would judge them? Knowing if their partner did cheat on them would be an uncomfortable clarity. It would radically change their reality and cause them to have to deal with the situation. In this case is the person able to deal with the information and move forward? Or would they deny it and live in a false reality?

That is one example of uncomfortable clarity. But if you have been doing any healing or transformational work you are likely having to deal with uncomfortable clarity. You may now see behavior in friends or family as cruel or hurtful. When in the past you overlooked it or took it on to try and be nicer or better to them. You could have had situations in your life that caused you to doubt your value or worth. And now the uncomfortable clarity forces you to no longer carry that story and put responsibility on others that told you it. You may have tried to help someone and gave all you could to them. Sacrificing your needs and putting them first. Only to have them say no the first time you ask for help. The uncomfortable clarity forces you to see their behavior clearly as selfish and not loving. Once you see it you can never unsee it. Because it changes your reality. It causes you to deal with the clarity you received.

As hard as uncomfortable clarity can be it is also exactly what is needed to make changes that are long overdue. It is like missing puzzle pieces to make sense of a bigger picture. It helps you to make decisions and changes with all the information. So, if this is happening to you, know that you are ready for bigger changes in your life. You have done enough healing that you are strong enough to deal with the changes needed. Don’t be afraid of uncomfortable clarity. Instead, know that it is time to let go of old beliefs, patterns and limitations that have long held you back from living the life you truly deserve.