The Gift of Self-worth
It’s that time of year again where we enjoy the end of fall and start to transition into the official holiday season! You can feel it start to creep up as your calendar fills and you start endless list of things to do, gifts to buy, events to organize, donations to give, volunteer time, decorating, baking, attending family events and attending friend events. Oh and don’t forget to smile, be happy, be thankful, be gracious, be sympathetic, be compassionate, be giving. Did I mention this is also one of the most stressful times of the year? Ha! We often get so caught up in the what should I be doing that we really never stop to ask do I need to be doing all of these things?
There is so much pressure from people, organizations, work and advertisers on where and when we should spend our time or money. All trying to get our attention or use our energy. It is the time of the year that people open their wallets or donate time. But why do we feel like we don’t do enough, give enough or are enough? Why do we sometimes feel shamed by someone else doing amazing things for others? Why do we compare what we give to what others do?
To find the answer ask yourself how do you measure your self-worth? At what point will it be good enough, what is your best, what is your max that you should give to the world? Do you need to do these things to feel valuable, approved or feel loved and accepted? Well here is the secret….you don’t need to “do” anything to build self-worth. We determine our self-worth all on our own. It is us that decides how much is enough, what makes me a “good” person and how much love and acceptance I deserve to receive. We setup our own rules of measurements and values.
Instead of looking outside yourself for validation or approval go within. What do you value as a good person? Did you do your best today? Do you share your love and compassion with others? If your intent is there do not diminish your self-worth by judging how much you can do or give.
We live in a world where there is already so much judgment. That judgment comes from everyone’s individual standards for themselves. Then they project that out on the world and expect everyone to live up to the same expectations they hold for themselves. But those expectations are not your own. They are not based on your life or your experiences. So be careful you are not judging yourself or feeling bad because you do not meet other expectations. Meet YOUR expectations.
So take the time to go within and really self-examine. What makes you a good person? What makes you valuable? What makes you unique? What is your self-worth? If you take a hard look you will see that you already are a beautiful, compassionate, kind wonderful person! Just remove the judgments and false expectations and embrace your beautiful soul!