Through the Eyes of Others

How do you view yourself? How do you view the world, other people and situations? Is it through your eyes, your perception and your reality? Or is it through the eyes of others? How you shape your reality is really based on the information you take in. What you experience, hear, see, touch and feel. But you also take in information from other people. Friends, family, authority figures, news outlets, social media influencers and more. But when you do this, you are seeing the world through the eyes of other people. Through their opinions and experiences. Instead of creating your own. This can affect how you see and feel about other people, situations and even how you perceive yourself. So how can you start to understand the difference in how you see the world? How can you start to see the world through your own eyes?

Think about the opinion you have of yourself. Is it critical or is it loving? Do you feel like you are enough, or changes need to be made? Then think about where that comes from. Is it through your own eyes or is it through the eyes of other people? If you have people judging you or being highly critical in your life, you may view yourself through that lens. If you had people saying you were not smart enough, you might view yourself as failing with every task. If you have had loving experiences with people praising you and saying you can do anything, you will likely be more confident in trying new things. How did you form an opinion of yourself? Was it through others’ influence or was it your own creation?

Now it can get tricky when you take on the view or opinions of others about yourself. You may be re-creating the same experiences over and over again. This can cause you to think this is true. Because you were told this about yourself and you are having the experiences. But if it is all based on the eyes of someone else, you were in a false reality from the start. This is why it is so hard to break old patterns or beliefs because it is all you know. But who told you that you were not smart enough, good enough, loveable enough and more? Who created that false reality, and do you still have to believe it?

People will always see things through their own eyes. Everyone is different and not likely to agree on things. That is why it is important to discern what you believe about yourself. Form your own opinion even if others do not agree. You do not need to get others to agree with you if they have a different opinion of you. Say a friend, family member or co-worker is jealous of your success. Nothing to do with you, they are getting triggered with their issue. But they need to make you feel unsuccessful, so they put you down. They may even tell others lies about you, so they treat you less than you deserve. They may see you as a threat through their eyes because you make them feel bad just based on their trigger. So, if you do not have a good sense of self, know your worth and value, you can get pulled into their reality and start seeing yourself through their eyes. What is wrong with me? Maybe I should try harder, why don’t people like me? You are starting to see yourself through their eyes and not your own.

How do you want to start seeing yourself? Can having this new awareness help free yourself from old beliefs, storylines and patterns? Yes! First determine where old belief patterns started. Whose eyes did they come from? And then analyze why a person may see you that way. Chances are it really has nothing to do with you and is a trigger of an issue for them. Free yourself from this false reality and take back control and authority to see things through your own eyes. How do you view yourself? How much power are you giving to others to determine your worth or value? Stop putting yourself in situations where you are not respected or are caught up in other people’s triggers. Stop participating in other people's healing process by hurting yourself.

See the world through your eyes. Start creating new beliefs and refreshing old ones. Decide how you want to experience the world. Not by earning or proving, but by living. Free yourself of the themes that have held you back. Know that not everyone will see you as you do. And that is normal. But do not take on what they see, especially if it has nothing to do with you and it is really about their insecurities and triggers. Watch how you start to see yourself differently and live your life free from other peoples blind spots.