Energetic Discussion

When you approach someone and give an opinion, comment on something, or state your belief, you start a discussion with someone. You are opening an energetic space to interact with someone’s energy. To engage with them. You are choosing to open that door. When that door is open and you connect energetically with someone, they will react, respond and have the right to choose how to interact with you. But something has happened over the past few years where people connect energetically but then don’t allow another person to respond. They don’t respect the process of energetic discussion. Instead, they treat the interaction more like a lecture. A way to state their opinion and push beliefs on others without allowing the other person to energetically respond. Taking away that right of another and disrespecting that person. This can create unhealthy interactions, misunderstandings and disrespect of the natural energetic discussion. So how can you recognize when someone is open to an energetic discussion or is choosing to lecture?

When we are strong in our values, beliefs and thoughts it is easier to enter energetic discussions. We may be curious about why someone has a different viewpoint. Where they came up with a belief. Or how experiences in their life shaped what they choose. You can take in other information and be curious about it. You have strong beliefs, know where your thoughts are coming from and why you created them. So, when you enter an energetic discussion, you are not threatened by information that contradicts your beliefs. You are curious. You state your opinions and views and then allow another person to do the same. Maybe you never agree on something. Maybe you think the other person is crazy for what they believe. But it is ok to engage in the discussion, feel the energy of the other person and still be able to hold your own energy. There is respect, curiosity and the ability to disagree and not feel threatened. That is a healthy energetic discussion.

When someone does not have strong core beliefs, or a good sense of self, any opinion other than their own can feel threatening. Because what if I am wrong? Will that alter my identity, change a long-standing belief, or affect my reality? When someone feels threatened or afraid of different information, they are not open to an energetic discussion. They may instead choose to lecture someone. Telling them they are wrong, assault their character, and generalize their identity. By doing this they devalue any thought, opinion or expression of another person. When you can label someone as evil, a threat, or any other negative disrespecting thing, you feel justified not taking in any information from them. Discrediting their opinion and lecturing them on the “right” opinion and belief.

Understanding when someone is not open to an energetic discussion is key. They are not in a healthy place to be curious, to want to explore or have anything alter their belief. These people tend to lash out emotionally, and sometimes even physically. They can attack someone personally, professionally or even financially to avoid the energetic discussion. In truth this behavior is dangerous. It is important to recognize it and remove yourself from it. Because it is no longer a true energetic discussion, it is a lecture full of fear and unbalanced emotions.

Start to recognize who can have an open energetic discussion with you? Do you want to have one with others? Anytime you offer an opinion or belief to someone in person or online you are choosing to enter the energetic discussion arena with them. That means they are free to respond, react, and have an opinion different from yours. It is not time for a lecture. They did not pay to come and see you lecture on a topic. You are not the authority of their life. Even if you believe you are right and they are wrong. Because chances are they may feel the same way about you. It’s time to come back to having healthy energetic discussions in our lives. And remove yourself from any situation where that is not happening. If someone feels so threatened by other’s opinions or alternative information or lashes out because of it, that may require some inner work by that person. Start making healthy choices by who you choose to have energetic discussions within your life.